My husband and I have been married for 34 years. We have been down some rocky roads. The first ten years were all about him and all about me. We lived selfish lives, each wanting our own way. We loved each other, just loved ourselves more.

We were in competition, but we did not know it. It takes years to look back and see clearly the error of our ways. Keeping love and romance alive is a friend that doesn’t reveal itself during the first few months or even years of a marriage.

The next ten years were a time of transition. I call it our time of Rock n’ Roll. There were rocks along the way, but we began to learn how to roll with them. The first clue came when we to learned to laugh.

Too much drama and seriousness can kill a marriage. Lighten up, life should be fun. You should be having the time of your life. The most fun should not be in the chase, but in the catch. Keeping love and romance alive is learning to find the art of humor in everyday life. Have you ever noticed that if you smile you cannot stay mad? It’s an anger buster!

The last 14 years have had a few pebbles along the way. However, we learned that we were partners not competitors. We are both on the same team. We learned the value of being childlike, not childish. What a difference. We learned how to be friends.

Keeping love and romance alive is learning to become like children. Children are teachable, forgiving, and they don’t hold grudges. Children have many spats, but they forget about it in just a few minutes and the fun starts all over again!

That is the secret to a happy long lasting marriage. Keep the fun alive. Life is too short to be unhappy. It’s simple and it will work for you if you will put it into practice. No, it is not easy but it is worth it. Keeping love and romance alive in your life is the key that unlocks the fountain of youth. Try it, you will like it!